We all SAY we want PEACE! Right?
So let’s get real about it! Peace has no compromise. You can’t argue in the hope to win it!! Or blame someone for disturbing YOUR peace! (Like we’ve ALL done for thousands of years!)
It’s obviously either here or not! We have to take responsibility for our own mind!
We can’t wish for it. Because that in itself is a struggle against it! And honestly I can feel the frustration of that realization right now! Maybe you can too! We can laugh about it. But that’s in an attempt to deflect the truth and hide it again!
All we CAN do is practice it! Like any other skill!!
By noticing what causes the absence of peace or love in OURSELVES! Rather than blaming others for what disturbs our own mind.
We can begin, by looking for patterns of behavior in ourselves that block peace from happening; or being our experience.
Then choosing to react differently! To try see things in a different way than we used to. And see how that makes us feel.
Good friends and the right environment are very helpful but its always the responsibility of the seeker to chose peace and HOW they will practice it.
I can’t do it for you anymore than you can for me!
Pointing out each others failures only brings up what we are trying to overcome. Blame shame and guilt!
Some may try to “fix” you so you can have it. To frustration of both! I’ve tried that too many times! …And maybe am doing it here! But like you…I’m doing the best I can TODAY…NOW. And sharing any idea makes the idea stronger. So I’m sharing.
Good friends will simply remind you peace is possible! And help you find it by BEING peaceful themselves… while you’re losing it!
Ah! That’s it!! Have the gift others are looking for!! Give the gift YOU want! As best you can today! That’s the love that truly gives! That’s the practice!! And you & I don’t have to be perfect at it. Because I sure as HELL AM NOT!! (In case you thought otherwise)
Giving what you truly want and asking for help when you need it!
Building the skill of peace in each other by sharing that idea through example and encouragement!
Yeah! I want friends like that!! Don’t you? I Want to BE that friend! Don’t you??
So if I attack you in any way… please do your best not to defend yourself. That only joins me in my attack and I’ve already lost peace! Any defense is a counter attack that adds to the war I’m already fighting! One of us has to say no at some point!
If I’m defensive; It just means I’m scared. A Battle wound is coming up that still hurts. Post traumatic stress effects us all and it’s contagious! Let’s be gentle! Let’s not scare each other more than we already are.
Let’s remember that to have peace, I have to be peaceful first! Then I can share my peace with the world. Give Peace a chance!