Having a good life is about Truth. It is NOT about belief. Which speaks to the belief that Money and things make for a good life. Not TRUE!
Look around and notice how people act in accordance with what they believe. You will find they coincide perfectly! But if you ask if they have a good life, most would say no. Some may say yes, but I can assure you they have secret thoughts and wishes that things were different in at least one area of their “good life”. Myself included! This is law of attraction at work.
“As You believe so shall ye have. “
If you are observant you will see this in other people’s lives.The trick is to be honest about how it applies to you!
A good way to judge belief is…. if it hurts you, (causes pain in your life) it is not true! Often we are not even aware of the pain in our life because we don’t want to believe it’s there. So we bury it deep in the mind, or hide it in the body causing us to be sick. But that’s another spiritual discussion.
Let’s start cooking up a recipe for a good life. Below are what I’ve found to be the ingredients. How they are added and to what measure is the process of “getting it right”.
So in no particular order let’s start with:
I know you know what that is but I’ll get into it any way. It’s about keeping your word to others as well as yourself!
This gets hard to do! As you will notice the level of commitment you have to keep, just to keep your commitment! Many of us (like me LOL) are more committed to procrastination than just getting things done! It nags at us but we say “Nah; I don’t feel like it, I’ll do it later!” It’s a circle that may drive you crazy if you let it. If you find yourself breaking your word, forgive yourself! WITHOUT SHAME!
Then recommit to not doing that again! Make a commitment to the commitment! (Allowing yourself to slide is where allowing done wrong will hurt you! )
As You practice and get better at keeping your word, you will gain confidence and trust in yourself, and others will gain trust & confidence In you as well!
Allow yourself to be open to new truths as they show themselves to you.
Allow yourself to gain new perspectives. Because you will!
Allow yourself to be wrong without any shame.
Allow yourself to make changes as necessary as you gain new insights.
Allow yourself to believe that others may be right. No matter how much you believe they are not! Just be open that it’s possible they are right!
This is very closely tied to commitment!
Realizing your “truth” is wrong and admitting it. Allowing yourself to gain new perspective and letting that flow. Admit when you are wrong and take steps to correct it! Again without shame. Take responsibility for your thoughts actions & words! Being Honest with yourself and others!
Staying creative in your life and with those around you opens you to new possibilities. Acting on those possibilities brings new things into your life.
Sort out what brings you joy and what doesn’t. (See allowing). Surround yourself with positive people who’s goals are similar to yours. A master mind group of sorts. Successful people don’t become successful alone! The term “No man is an Island” comes greatly into play here; and it’s wisdom is well founded.
As a side note there is a mathematical sequence called the “Fibonacci sequence”. It goes like this: 1+1=2, 2+1=3, 3+2=5, 5+3 =8 and so on.
Notice each number is is the sum of the previous equation plus the number before it. For example: 2+3=5 and 3+5=8. So the next number in the sequence of course would be 13. Why do I mention this? For many reasons actually. This sequence is found everywhere! Every tree, leaf, bug, animal, etc. uses this sequence! It is the sequence of matter in all things. If you were to measure the distance of your arm, hand and fingers; you’d see that the sequence is even in your body! So when you want to create something, adding people to help you increases your chance of success exponentially in very much this same manner!
This is where compassion also comes in!
The love you need is here!
Forgive others for their misguided ways. (which is just our judgment speaking anyways!) They are only acting out from the same wounded place you are! It just looks different and may even show up differently but a wound is a wound! They were handed their wounds just as you were! So forgive them and yourself!
We are all a product of our environment. Our culture makes us who we are as individuals. Each individual has there own unique environment due to each persons unique experiences in life. The beliefs we carry come from these experiences. Each of us choose our beliefs based on pain or pleasure, as well as repetition of ideas presented to us. We are taught who and how to hate, love, forgive, and so on based on these factors.
Are YOU so different from anyone else that you cannot look at them and say “They are acting just like I am! Because I too act based on my beliefs and culture. The reason I disagree with these actions are the same reasons they are acting out in this way. Their culture and life experiences are different than mine. Life taught them to be this way as mine has taught me to be as I am. They are not different!
If we begin to look at each other in this way, Forgiveness becomes easier. No one wants to be mean, hated, or unloved! Practice being the love to those who feel it is absent from them. (Which of course is everyone!)
I often have to remind myself that I am not being loving to ME! I can beat myself up with the best of them! Find reasons to hate myself or feel unworthy. We all do it! Catch yourself and remind yourself that it’s O.K. to human! But to be unloving is not being a GOOD human and forgive yourself and others for the mistakes. Then try again to improve. Each reminder you give yourself to return to love will move you closer to being admired by all. Which makes for a good life! Who likes a sour puss?
This is a biggie! If you are not truly grateful for what you have NOW,
You will not appreciate more!
Therefore you will not get it! WHY SHOULD YOU? If you were to give gifts to someone who constantly complained about what you gave them, how long would you continue to give to them? Not long right? Yet we often think nothing about how we complain about every day life. The times we say our Job sucks, or we don’t have enough money etc.
I’m sure you’ve had parents that told you to eat what was on the table because in some part of the world there are children not as lucky as you and starving. Which is true enough, but it didn’t change our attitude! We we’re stuck in “I don’t care” mode! And everyone around us felt it! But We suffered the most because others reflected that attitude with there own resistance. Nor were they grateful for the attitude we showed! So gratitude is the best attitude to attract the good life your looking for. No matter what form that takes!
Always be vigilant to what is out of balance in your life. Go back through these steps to find where the problem lies. It will be very evident if you are honest with yourself! So be vigilant for the lies too!
Read!! Listen & learn! (seek and you shall find) Love and care enough about yourself to be educated about your beliefs! Knowledge is empowering!! Be curious to a fault! Curiosity is what gave the cat 9 lives! Now you can start this process all over with new prospective! Yep! It’s a wash rinse and repeat process!
You have just grown as a human being, and made a better you!
Hopefully in the process you found that the REAL truth about yourself has nothing to do with what happens! That’s just the “Show and Tell” that covers up who you really are!
To find that …keep reading! Because that’s where the the really good life IS!
I said “without Shame” here several times. Shame keeps us stuck not loving who we are and begins a downward spiral that never ends. Please….DON’T DO IT!
When you find yourself in shame, or when that comes up for you;
forgive yourself for the feeling and say “it’s OK! It was just a mistake, that’s ALL!!!
No more, no less!” Then….
Take time to be still!
This doesn’t mean sit without moving. It is also most likely the most important ingredient for a good life!
Being “Still” means focusing your mind away from thought! Shame, guilt, fear and negativity are all thought based. Just like excitement and other thoughts we consider to be good. Calling our thoughts “good” or “bad” are judgments! They actually enhance false believes and the false story about who we think we are. (Are you a thought??)
Focusing our mind on something neutral such as the breath, or the feeling of our tongue relaxed in the mouth, disengages our mind from thinking.
At best; it moves the attention away from the thoughts and stories that run rampant in our mind. Usually unchecked and un-investigated! By pulling away the attention. we give our SPIRIT a chance to shine through the noise of a busy mind. Which is exactly the goal we came to this planet to achieve!
You may want to start a journal or diary. It’s a great way to look at how much you’ve actually accomplished through these efforts.
At the end of everyday, or week; write what was right & what needs work.
I often find that through writing I actually stop thinking! Words just flow out and when I’m done, I learn from my Self! My Higher Self. Or as some say The Holy Spirit. (pssst I’ll tell you a secret! It’s the same thing! Just labeled differently! Shh don’t tell! LOL) 🙂
You can read through your journal from time to time, to see where
Your weakness, strengths and beliefs are that need adjustment or enhancement.
That is what brings about change!
Find what works FOR YOU and throw the rest out!
If you find you throw out something that was actually working you can always come back to it! It’s not like it’s at the landfill! 😉