We all have a need for specialness. But he problem with specialness is that we like it so much, we deny others the right to be special in their own unique way. We end up subconsciously and often even consciously asking why people can’t be more like “I want them to be” Or think they should be! Then the world would be a better place!
I Thank God He has a better plan! That plan being for us to see ourselves in each other and forgive the errors in perception that we all have! In other words….our need for specialness is only a call for love! Love is an extension that offers everything to everyone without a preference or any favoritism. It is Unconditional in the extension of itself. So if we withhold even the tiniest gift of extending love to anything or anyone the purpose of Love is misunderstood.
That’s a high standard! How can we Love everything equal and unconditionally? What thoughts of specialness would we have to let go of? How many beliefs would we have to throw completely out the window?? Perhaps the most important question of all is; how willing would we be to throw those ideas away? How many beliefs in specialness do we have that are yet unrecognized and how can we recognize them so that Love flows unimpeded?
Would you agree that the first to go would have to be the belief that unconditional Love is impractical and impossible? How would one go about removing such strongly held beliefs? First of all, we can notice our defensiveness. If we think we don’t hold that belief strongly that’s the first sign of defense and a clue that we do strongly hold that belief!
So that may be a good place to start! By noticing when we feel defensiveness we can ask where specialness has been a block to Love.
Let’s make an extreme example to show how strongly specialness is held onto and how it actually blocks love from flowing unconditionally Let’s say, for the sake of conversation, that you’re children (imagine you have them if you don’t) were under attack by someone. A “Natural” response would be to defend them and protect them from harm. Perhaps even attacking the assailant in equal measure to the threat. Kind of the old “Eye for an eye” we all hear about. Would that be an example of how specialness was a block to love?
If you said no I can understand! And Honestly My own reaction would likely be to do just that! But as I said this is an extreme example. So let’s dig into how that scenario is a block to Love replaced by a belief in specialness.
A few simple questions will suffice. Who’s child was attacking yours? Does that person have parents who think they are as special to them as your children are to you?
Which life is “more valuable” depends on the point of view your coming from. But in Truth they are equally valuable! So specialness has “damned” one and blessed another. Making love conditional and directed by an arrogant thought and belief of who deserves to be loved and who doesn’t! OUCH!
Now the question comes- Are you and I really loving people? Perhaps Jesus had more to teach us than just to Believe in him to be saved. Perhaps salvation means something else that no one wants to “work” on or look at.